Today was one of those grey city days. Low clouds obscured the tops of the buildings and a cold mist ____ the city… poetic word choice: blanketed feels too cliche, swaddled is too warm, fell is too passive, enveloped? pestered? nibbled? permeated? lingered over the city…. I made my way to Cafe Keough, read a…
Category: Love
A TREMENDOUS DANGER, A TREMENDOUS RESPONSIBILITY
From our formative attachments to our great loves, relationship is the seedbed of our becoming, the laboratory of our self-invention and reinvention. Maria Popova I had a couple of hours on my hands last night. I didn’t go out. I intended to write. I’m finding I’m more productive in the mornings (like this morning). I…
THE REMINISCENCE BUMP
If we want life to slow down, to make moments memorable and our lives unforgettable, we may want to remember to harness the power of firsts. In our daily routines, it’s also an idea to consider how we can turn the ordinary into something more extraordinary in order to stretch the river of time. It…
THE BEAUTY OF BANAL PLATITUDES
For the past three mornings I’ve sat at the kitchen table at my dad’s house where I’ve dipped toast in sunny side up eggs and drank my coffee and ate my bacon. On the wall opposite of where I sit, next to the light switch is a little placard that reads in cursive: Live, Laugh,…
THE QUIET FULLNESS OF CHRISTMAS EVE
Today is Christmas Eve. For me this has been one of those days that always symbolized quiet and beauty. Today is the birthday of my first girlfriend (we were together seven years). Christmas Eve was usually a raucous affair for her family – she often had to clean the house in order to prep for…
WHAT I CHOOSE TO WORSHIP
I’m somewhat obsessed with the idea of romantic love. For a while now, I’ve tried to figure out where this obsession comes from. I’ve also tried to figure out where my notions about love come from. I’m a complete sucker for it. Feeling this way causes a little bit of shame for me. This past…
LEARNING TO SLOW DOWN
It’s late, I’m tired, my mind isn’t as clear as I would like it to be. I will have to edit and add and delete in the morning… Tonight I went out with my friend Ali. She’s another woman I won’t date but met on a dating site. She’s from California. She has a daughter…
NOT GETTING OVER THE HUMP
How to get over the hump….? Like lots of nights, tonight I went out to listen to music. Single guy, at the bar, lots of couples around. It’s hard to watch other couples be affectionate. It makes me think of my ex-fiancee, B, being affectionate with her new boyfriend – that kinda sucks – it’s…
DOING JUSTICE TO OUR COMPLEXITY
I’m slowly falling in love with reading and writing. There are days when I want to call out sick just to have time to read, write, feel, relax. After last night’s post, and this morning’s edits, I realized that I’ll have done work related networking functions four nights in a row (Sunday – Wednesday). And…
LOVE STORY
This is one of those stories, where my commentary would, at best, be a detraction from the tale. Love in the face of unimaginable suffering.
EFT: GROWING TOGETHER
I’m going to start off by suggesting that you read Sue Johnson (Real Love Stories) – then come back. Any notions I have about the psychology of relationships almost always start with my own experiences and then branch out in to a series of questions along the lines of, if I’m feeling this, surly my…
VERONICA AND THE WARS WITHIN
Before moving to Memphis I had started reading Veronica by Mary Gaitskill. I had come across some clippings from the book on goodreads – I was, I’m sure, looking for quotes on love or loss. I remember coming across this one and thinking this, to some extent, is my ex-fiancee, B. I wanted to know…