The problem with being a social chameleon is that sometimes you don’t always have a good sense of who you really are. I’ve alluded to feeling like two very different people in and out of relationships. In a relationship, I am all about my partner, and have very little need for socializing outside of that…
STORIES OF TRIUMPH?
Tonight is one of those nights, when the subjects, not the words, won’t come. I think I’ve managed to write nearly everyday for the past month – which may be the longest I’ve kept something like this up. Of course I don’t exercise at all – I suppose something had to suffer. Some of the…
CHRISTMAS 2019 (BUT MOSTLY 2018)
It doesn’t feel like Christmas time – at least not for me, not this year. That’s ok. I’ve been wanting and not wanting to write about this for a little while now. Wanting to write because it’s on my mind. Not wanting to write because, as I was warned, the holidays would be tough. It’s…
DOING JUSTICE TO OUR COMPLEXITY
I’m slowly falling in love with reading and writing. There are days when I want to call out sick just to have time to read, write, feel, relax. After last night’s post, and this morning’s edits, I realized that I’ll have done work related networking functions four nights in a row (Sunday – Wednesday). And…
LOVE STORY
This is one of those stories, where my commentary would, at best, be a detraction from the tale. Love in the face of unimaginable suffering.
EFT: GROWING TOGETHER
I’m going to start off by suggesting that you read Sue Johnson (Real Love Stories) – then come back. Any notions I have about the psychology of relationships almost always start with my own experiences and then branch out in to a series of questions along the lines of, if I’m feeling this, surly my…
MEDITATION ON IMPATIENCE
I’ve started my morning like most – waking up too late and too lazy to exercise. Fed the cat, fed the Matt. Drank my coffee, edited some of my writing – mostly last night’s post. There’s more I want to say on it, but I’m intentionally holding back. I tried to think about what I’d…
VERONICA AND THE WARS WITHIN
Before moving to Memphis I had started reading Veronica by Mary Gaitskill. I had come across some clippings from the book on goodreads – I was, I’m sure, looking for quotes on love or loss. I remember coming across this one and thinking this, to some extent, is my ex-fiancee, B. I wanted to know…
RECAP 12-3-19
I didn’t write this morning – was out too late last night. I’m not sure what all I want to tackle… I’ve been spending so much time making edits at B’s request, and contemplating the subject that I spend most of my time contemplating, that I haven’t really talked much about what I’ve been up…
WILLIE
For quite some time, the night before Thanksgiving has been one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Everyone has off the next day, kids are home from college, people are in town visiting, friends come back together. I was bored and alone and decided to see what Memphis had in store. I walked…
LOVE HEALS
I think this is something we all know – intuitively: love has the ability to heal. In my post The Measure of Love, I referenced the book Hold Me Tight. In it, the author talks about the 7 conversations partners need to have and the vulnerability they need to share. The book is entirely about…
CLIPPINGS 12-1-19 (HOME)
Last night was not a good night for sleep. I tossed restless most of the night and finally got out of bed around 5 am. I had my big boy breakfast, and have been at the computer not writing for the past hour. I can’t settle on anything to write, at least not now. Thumbing…