Before moving to Memphis I had started reading Veronica by Mary Gaitskill. I had come across some clippings from the book on goodreads – I was, I’m sure, looking for quotes on love or loss. I remember coming across this one and thinking this, to some extent, is my ex-fiancee, B. I wanted to know…
Category: Relationships
Thoughts and Readings on Being in a Healthy Relationship
I AM NOT THE HERO: REFLECTIONS ON CONFIDENCE
In another post, I published my dating profile. I have absolutely no interest in dating, but it’s by far the easiest way for me to meet new people – though I do ok out at bars and social situations. My profile is effective at getting dates – a little less so in getting friends (that…
THANKSGIVING 2018
Ever since getting in to the habit of writing every day, I’m finding that I want to spend more and more time writing. I will always struggle with the self criticism, and I will always struggle with the question – why should anyone care? I can’t answer that question, other than to say, you shouldn’t…
A QUIET TYPE OF COMFORT
Last night my friend Stacy and I went out for drinks and a bite. I met up with her and two of her friends, a slightly older lesbian couple. We went to South of Beale, a local bar just down the street from my office. It was a really nice evening, and her friends were…
THE MEASURE OF LOVE IS TRANSFORMATION
I’m happy to be writing every day. The last few days, it’s been how I’ve spent the bulk of my time. This morning, I find myself wanting to tackle a few topics, and not really knowing where to start, not really sure how this post will meander and take shape (obviously with a useless prologue…
DIGITAL CLIPPINGS
Clippings: that was the term my ex-fiancee gave to the lines of poetry she would jot down in her journals – they would be jumping off points for her poems. I think anyone that has done any writing is familiar with this practice – you see something good, you write it down, store it away,…
LEARNING TO RUN
A year ago on this date (11/17) I completed my first race, the Philadelphia Half Marathon. It was cold, it was early, it was one of those mornings when the sun was bright and you could see your breath in the air. I was nervous, the wait to start was exciting and long. There’s an…
INTERTWINED
When you truly connect with another human being, you reach a strange physical, emotional, and mental place where you’re not quite sure where you begin and where they end. You’re lives and being become intertwined. Your motives for wanting good for them and wanting good things for you become one and the same. Their needs…
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO FIND
Well before I met my ex-fiancee, B, I had spent a lot of time dating. I had a few relationships that were intense for a few months before crashing in their own special way. I also had a lot of one-off dates as well as a handful of things that fell in the 2 or…
SO IT GOES.
“When a Tralfamadorian sees a corpse, all he thinks is that the dead person is in bad condition in that particular moment, but that the same person is just fine in plenty of other moments. Now, when I myself hear that somebody is dead, I simply shrug and say what the Tralfamadorians say about dead…
TIME TOGETHER, TIME APART
I went out with my friend Hank tonight. We grabbed pizza and beers in New Hope. Hank was coming down from a week of live shows. His brain was mush and he needed calm. He also needs to get back in to domestic mode. His partner, Kasia, returns from an extended (as in seven week)…