Today felt like a productive day. I enjoyed reading and writing in the morning, researched jobs, applied to two, posted a new poem, and submitted some poems for publication. I’ll meet my goal of new poems written for the month and I should be able to meet my goal of submissions. All of that in…
Category: Relationships
Thoughts and Readings on Being in a Healthy Relationship
PORCH EDITION (SOME THOUGHTS CONTINUED)
I suppose this is technically the balcony edition. It’s a beautiful night here in Memphis. After an afternoon run (and shower) I opted for a beer and some music on the balcony. The hair is getting a little long – not sure I’ve actually “done” it with product or anything for a while. I love…
STANDING ROOM ONLY
Notwithstanding the crappy dream and lack of sleep, I’ve been productive and had a bounce in my step (so far) today. I finished the book of poetry I was reading (Robert Hass, Human Wishes). It was one of the better volumes I’ve read – every few pages I felt inspired to write more and by…
CULTIVATING KINDNESS
Since it’s poetry month, I’m sharing one that a friend shared on Facebook. Not only does it seem appropriate for these times, but it resonates with my (and many people’s) dualistic/multiplicity approach to life – in order to understand x, we need to contemplate or feel y. Not sure how the poem will render on…
SPRING BREEZE
Last night I got in to bed early and started to read some poems by Mark Strand. Earlier I had read a bit more of the novel I’m reading – it’s really good. The section I had finished was about a funeral and loss. It made me wish that my ex-fiancee, B, and I had…
WANTING TO BE MISSED
Today was a day of getting some stuff done. I did laundry, changed sheets, looked for jobs, secured letter of termination from insurance company, read a bit, cleaned shower, exercised, etc. etc. Any writing, until now, was either editing the post from last night, or jotting down some notes from when I used to take…
ADVICE TO A FRIEND
I was supposed to go to a concert tonight. It was canceled due to the COVID-19 stuff. As I took my walk down Main St., I thought about going out for drinks and texted my friend Stacy to see if she’d be up for it. I almost always feel like grabbing a drink when I…
FROM DOGS TO GLASS ANIMALS
I hadn’t planned on starting this post with a video…. in fact the plan was to end with a live performance video of Glass Animals – since that’s who I’ll be seeing in Kentucky in June (ever the optimist of having someone to take with me, I bought two tickets). When I went to the…
UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER
I haven’t been posting much in the morning this week. There’s no real reason for this other than I haven’t been writing as much in the morning – or what I’ve been writing hasn’t been finished. I’ve been reading a little bit about how different writers work and what they consider to be good output….
BICKERING: PERIMENOPAUSE
How I feel at the moment is the opposite of flow (and no, that is not a period pun, I wrote the title after I wrote the blog post). I’ve been having a tough time communicating with my friend Lisa lately. It seems that she’s been distant for a little more than a week –…
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (ESTHER PEREL)
I need a word for these non-dating casual new friendships that I develop from time to time. Many of them follow a pattern of a few deep-ish conversations that can’t be sustained over a long period of time. They’re not therapy sessions, they’re not quite comparing scars, but more along the lines of matching up…
IN SEARCH OF LOST… KEYS
Since I was mentioning Proust earlier, I figured I’d play off of the In Search of Lost Time thing. More than once, I’ve tried to write about time – it’s the only thing that just marches on – it gives meaning and urgency and definition. How we spend it and who we spend it with…