How I feel at the moment is the opposite of flow (and no, that is not a period pun, I wrote the title after I wrote the blog post). I’ve been having a tough time communicating with my friend Lisa lately. It seems that she’s been distant for a little more than a week –…
Category: Relationships
Thoughts and Readings on Being in a Healthy Relationship
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE (ESTHER PEREL)
I need a word for these non-dating casual new friendships that I develop from time to time. Many of them follow a pattern of a few deep-ish conversations that can’t be sustained over a long period of time. They’re not therapy sessions, they’re not quite comparing scars, but more along the lines of matching up…
IN SEARCH OF LOST… KEYS
Since I was mentioning Proust earlier, I figured I’d play off of the In Search of Lost Time thing. More than once, I’ve tried to write about time – it’s the only thing that just marches on – it gives meaning and urgency and definition. How we spend it and who we spend it with…
COMMITMENT
To love without knowing how to love wounds the person we love. Thich Nhat Hanh I spent a good part of yesterday thinking and not writing. Well… I wrote in the morning, but there was a topic I wanted to tackle all day and wasn’t able to. What that looks like for me (when it’s…
AN ATTEMPT TO UNDERSTAND JEALOUSY
What is it in the brain that makes us want to be special in someone else’s eyes and life? What makes us want to be the first, or the only, the last, the best? What makes us see certain things as sacred? For me, the flip side of this coin is jealousy. I don’t always…
KNOW THYSELF
Two nights ago I was asked what my Enneagram types were. Until a few months ago, I knew nothing about these personality type indicators. I saw people posting them on their dating profiles. I took a test in November – and my two highest scores were type 9 The Peacemaker (98%) and type 2 The…
*POP*
Happiness. I write, often, as a way to give voice to my inner workings…. the battle between thinking and doing, the tug of war that lives in the very word between (love and hate, joy and pain, feeling and reflecting). I write (and read) in search of my interpretation of a good and meaningful life….
TOLERANCE AND MERCY
Today was one of those grey city days. Low clouds obscured the tops of the buildings and a cold mist ____ the city… poetic word choice: blanketed feels too cliche, swaddled is too warm, fell is too passive, enveloped? pestered? nibbled? permeated? lingered over the city…. I made my way to Cafe Keough, read a…
EXPECTATIONS: WANTING EVERYTHING AND NOTHING AT ALL
This morning’s fodder begins with the increased pressures we put on our partners and the increasing isolation we feel in modern society. I opened up a new browser tab and after a brief search on the neuroscience of how grief affects the brain, I scanned my pocket recommendations. I’m came across an article in The…
A TREMENDOUS DANGER, A TREMENDOUS RESPONSIBILITY
From our formative attachments to our great loves, relationship is the seedbed of our becoming, the laboratory of our self-invention and reinvention. Maria Popova I had a couple of hours on my hands last night. I didn’t go out. I intended to write. I’m finding I’m more productive in the mornings (like this morning). I…
FOR THE SAKE OF HABIT
Rough and tumble storms have been rolling through Memphis this morning. It’s in the mid-sixties, there’s a lot of thunder and lightening. Seems a bit crazy for January. Yesterday I read that an organization in Australia made dire predictions for climate change – basically saying that by 2050, civilization will collapse in to chaos because…
GRIEF AND A CELEBRITY SIGHTING (SORTA)
This morning, after my run (yay to me for finding time), I settled in to an article I had set aside to read: The Strangeness of Grief by V. S. Naipaul. I am, at times, obsessed with the subject. It’s not something I’ve ever really experienced, at least not on the level of what I’ve…