I think this is something we all know – intuitively: love has the ability to heal. In my post The Measure of Love, I referenced the book Hold Me Tight. In it, the author talks about the 7 conversations partners need to have and the vulnerability they need to share. The book is entirely about…
Category: Love
CLIPPINGS 12-1-19 (HOME)
Last night was not a good night for sleep. I tossed restless most of the night and finally got out of bed around 5 am. I had my big boy breakfast, and have been at the computer not writing for the past hour. I can’t settle on anything to write, at least not now. Thumbing…
DETAILS AND NARRATIVE
As I mentioned yesterday, B, my ex-fiancee, wrote to me on Friday night. She found this blog. She’s upset with the amount of detail in it, and that it has real names and faces – mainly hers and mine. She’s emailed again and wants to know why I can’t just use initials, and why I…
A QUIET TYPE OF COMFORT
Last night my friend Stacy and I went out for drinks and a bite. I met up with her and two of her friends, a slightly older lesbian couple. We went to South of Beale, a local bar just down the street from my office. It was a really nice evening, and her friends were…
STANDING IN THE SUNLIGHT
When my wife and I decided to get divorced, I can remember one night that was extremely emotionally difficult and also liberating. In retrospect, I’m amazed that it really only took one night to dive in to the depths of what was happening and also emerge with a new outlook. I was the one who…
ALLIGATORS AND HOT AIR BALLOONS
When my stepdaughter, Carolyn, was maybe five or six (maybe older), we would spend time co-writing stories together. She’d pull a chair up next to me at the desk where my computer was. Sometimes we’d each write a sentence – one building off of the other, sometimes it was more than a sentence each. The…
THE MEASURE OF LOVE IS TRANSFORMATION
I’m happy to be writing every day. The last few days, it’s been how I’ve spent the bulk of my time. This morning, I find myself wanting to tackle a few topics, and not really knowing where to start, not really sure how this post will meander and take shape (obviously with a useless prologue…
LEARNING TO RUN
A year ago on this date (11/17) I completed my first race, the Philadelphia Half Marathon. It was cold, it was early, it was one of those mornings when the sun was bright and you could see your breath in the air. I was nervous, the wait to start was exciting and long. There’s an…
INTERTWINED
When you truly connect with another human being, you reach a strange physical, emotional, and mental place where you’re not quite sure where you begin and where they end. You’re lives and being become intertwined. Your motives for wanting good for them and wanting good things for you become one and the same. Their needs…
BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO FIND
Well before I met my ex-fiancee, B, I had spent a lot of time dating. I had a few relationships that were intense for a few months before crashing in their own special way. I also had a lot of one-off dates as well as a handful of things that fell in the 2 or…
WAITING: THE BRUTALITY OF ADORATION
Today I read a poignant and well-written essay on waiting – specifically as it relates to love. It referenced some modern anxieties (waiting for the good morning text in a new relationship), but also brought some heavy-hitting thoughts to the topic citing Walt Whitman, Roland Barthes, Dorothy Parker and others. As I read, I found…