For quite some time, the night before Thanksgiving has been one of the biggest drinking nights of the year. Everyone has off the next day, kids are home from college, people are in town visiting, friends come back together. I was bored and alone and decided to see what Memphis had in store. I walked…
Category: Life
LOVE HEALS
I think this is something we all know – intuitively: love has the ability to heal. In my post The Measure of Love, I referenced the book Hold Me Tight. In it, the author talks about the 7 conversations partners need to have and the vulnerability they need to share. The book is entirely about…
CLIPPINGS 12-1-19 (HOME)
Last night was not a good night for sleep. I tossed restless most of the night and finally got out of bed around 5 am. I had my big boy breakfast, and have been at the computer not writing for the past hour. I can’t settle on anything to write, at least not now. Thumbing…
I AM NOT THE HERO: REFLECTIONS ON CONFIDENCE
In another post, I published my dating profile. I have absolutely no interest in dating, but it’s by far the easiest way for me to meet new people – though I do ok out at bars and social situations. My profile is effective at getting dates – a little less so in getting friends (that…
THANKSGIVING 2019
For the first time in my life, I was not with family during Thanksgiving. For the first time in my life (other than when I was a baby, I’m guessing), I did not have turkey on Thanksgiving. For the first time I can remember there wasn’t a TV with football on in another room on…
THANKSGIVING 2018
Ever since getting in to the habit of writing every day, I’m finding that I want to spend more and more time writing. I will always struggle with the self criticism, and I will always struggle with the question – why should anyone care? I can’t answer that question, other than to say, you shouldn’t…
DETAILS AND NARRATIVE
As I mentioned yesterday, B, my ex-fiancee, wrote to me on Friday night. She found this blog. She’s upset with the amount of detail in it, and that it has real names and faces – mainly hers and mine. She’s emailed again and wants to know why I can’t just use initials, and why I…
TIME
The other day I ended a post suggesting that I need to write about time – specifically, as it relates to interests and schedules, work, and relationships with friends, family, and partners. Since moving to Memphis, my schedule has been pretty jacked up. My interests have been all over the place and time has been…
INTERRUPTED
I could hear her scream “two weeks…..” as she fell off the cliff. This was an inside joke my ex, B, and I had. Two weeks in to our relationship, we went on a hike with my friend Jen. Jen took a picture of us – it became one of our favorites. As we posed,…
STANDING IN THE SUNLIGHT
When my wife and I decided to get divorced, I can remember one night that was extremely emotionally difficult and also liberating. In retrospect, I’m amazed that it really only took one night to dive in to the depths of what was happening and also emerge with a new outlook. I was the one who…
DIGITAL CLIPPINGS
Clippings: that was the term my ex-fiancee gave to the lines of poetry she would jot down in her journals – they would be jumping off points for her poems. I think anyone that has done any writing is familiar with this practice – you see something good, you write it down, store it away,…