Like so many things in 2020, Thanksgiving this year was different. Last Thanksgiving was the first one I spent away from my family. Friends of my friend Stacy were kind enough to invite me over to a friendsgiving type of event. It was fun and warm and friendly – all the things we expect out…
Category: Life
Attitude of Gratitude
Venting, complaining, bitching – I fell like I do too much of this. By nature, I tend to joke around and be pretty easy going – I like to think I’m laid back…. but then I remember that whiny little bitch inside me. My sense of humor is dry and self-effacing – usually to mask…
Riddles and Rabbit Holes: Goethe, Jazz, and Billy Collins
Last night, my mind was all horns punctuated by drums, fast hi-hat, and quickening bass. I was trying to read poetry and kept hearing the song “We Six” by Paul Chambers. I had to look the song up in my library to get the title. It’s fast and crazy and starts a little cacophonous before…
With Time and Distance
Can two people, both of whom don’t like to be the center of attention, survive the influx of attention in a new relationship – especially if they have different attachment styles? The other day, I received an email from Island photography. It was one of those reminder / memories notifications that we’ve all become accustomed…
Meditation on a Four
My dad sent me a check today. It’s to pay for the stove I ordered and am having installed in his house – where I’m living. I’m sitting here caught between an editing project and wanting to write for myself (either a poem or this blog post). For a few days I’ve been wanting to…
Winter Descending, Mid-November Night
The trees have lost their color and the mountains on the drive to and from work are mostly brown. In the mornings, there’s a still and quiet beauty to them – their soft rolling tops yawn in the shadows and light of the rising sun. But tonight, as I drove home, the sky felt serious…
Some Thoughts on Communication
Last January, shortly before the MLK holiday, my boss sent around an email saying something to the effect that it’s a busy time of year in the office, and we might feel the need to come in to work during the holiday. If we did, we could take flex time some other day. It went…
Paperwork, Detours, and Things of Little Consequence
A number of years ago I was driving to work and listening to NPR when I heard a piece about the psychology behind (and stress we create for ourselves by) putting off relatively simple, but perhaps tedious, tasks. The speaker was a professor at a university. He was, by all accounts, perfectly capable of handling…
Hunker Down – I Have a Spreadsheet for That
Every once in a while, life’s various complications (finances, relationships, or how to spend the day, week, month or year) all feel like they could be answered with a calculator and a few decent formulas. First you compound the interest then run a cost-benefit analysis between taking a loan and investing in high-yield dividend stocks,…
Sights and Sounds
When I lived in Memphis and took long walks along the Mississippi, I had a lot of time to think. On a good day, I would get in two walks – one in the morning and one just around sunset. The morning ones were long and contemplative – the best of those being times when…
Sigh
Yesterday, the day after the election, I started to write a long post about the election. I couldn’t get it right. Like many Americans, I was feeling anxious, sad, resigned, and worn out. To some degree, I still am. Record numbers of people have turned out to vote, and the talking heads on TV are…